6 months ago
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
We had lights out at 10pm tonight (just a few minutes ago) and I haven't heard a peep from the girls since. We came back to our rooms, they took showers and watched Tom and Jerry for about 45 minutes before bedtime. Of all the movies I thought we might try to buy when we were over here, Tom and Jerry wasn't one of them. The good thing is there are no words, so both girls enjoy it equally. They are mesmerized by watching it. It's pretty funny to watch.
Again, they walked around holding hands tonight and have gotten along so well.
Another thing we've learned about Kara... she is a neat freak. She has to have everything in order. If things start to get too messy in their rooms, she starts putting everything away. And beds HAVE to be made. She'll help get us (me) in order! Mommy's not a neat freak. :)
She has stopped calling us Mama and Baba and has started calling us Mommy and Father, although it sounds more like "Moddy" and "Fodda". She has the cutest little voice. I just love hearing, "Moddy".
I think I have surprised her by how affectionate I am. I am always hugging and loving on the girls. Leila has always been the more reserved, but Mia is Miss Affectionate++++. Last night, I tucked Kara in, gave her a big hug, kissed her on her forehead and said, "Wo Ai Ni" (I love you). She just giggled and I could tell it was an uncomfortable giggle. I talked to our guide today and she confirmed what I had read... Chinese are very reserved people and it is not common for parents to hug or kiss their children or say I love you to them. Of course, it is understood that the parents love their children and vice versa, but it's just not verbalized or as overtly shown as we are accustomed to. She said, "There is no way my parents would even say goodnight to me, let alone kiss or hug me. We just don't do that." She said that as an adult, she still walks around holding her mother's hand, but they do not say I love you or hug. She said that children do not see their parents show affection towards one another and that most married people don't say "I love you" either. She said that maybe on your 20th anniversary or something, they might say, "Yes, we love one another", but it's just not commonly said. Lastly, she said that people dating do not say it either. She said that a man might do something nice, like buy the woman a present or cut her meat, and then the woman knows that he likes her. I just love learning about other cultures so much. I had our guide ask Kara today if she liked being hugged, kissed and having her back rubbed... the answers were No, No and No. he he. We'll just see about that... I saved the hug, but she still got a quick forehead kiss tonight. An American mom's gotta do what an American mom's gotta do!!!!
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